What is love & why does it cause so much suffering?
In essence…
Love cannot be given, and love cannot be received. Love is never lost, nor can it be found.
Love does not hurt, or cause suffering.
Love cannot die, and it cannot fade away.
So then, what is love?
The simple answer is this...
Love is a state of being,
Our natural state as we consciously choose to dissolve the fear and need that is ingrained in our minds [concept of self] at conception.
As we manifest into physical form in this realm of creation, we have no memory of our true nature as eternal beings.
This leads to the belief that we are separate from the rest of creation, a destructive belief that functionally disconnects us from the unlimited source of all energy that flows through us, and forces us to process external forms of energy in our quest to understand what we are, and what our purpose for being is.
At the process level, this ‘separation’ creates a dynamic tension that is constantly guiding us back to unity and the conscious awareness of our true nature as powerful creator beings.
However, on the story level of life where our lives play out, it generates an unconscious yearning for that which we cannot remember, for the love that we are.
Disconnected from the eternal source of energy within, we focus our attention externally at story level to find any energy that will elevate our frequency to a state of love and makes us feel safe and empowered.
This drives us to connect with others, to learn and to grow, but it also generates suffering when our needs are out of balance, or if we are consciously or unconsciously taking (feeding off) other people’s energy.
Suffering is our guide and draws our attention to any energetic role-play and makes us aware that our system’s (Mind & Body) need for energy is out of balance, and that our beliefs are not aligned with the truth of all that we are.
If we do not follow that inner guidance and change, the suffering in Mind manifests as a dis-ease in Mind & Body, where the suffering, pain or threat of death forces us to pay attention.
This plays out in our personal lives, but also in the bloodline as potential and blockages (destructive patterns), that are passed from generation to generation until the accumulated suffering awakens us to our true nature and purpose for being…
The purpose of the journey is to free ourselves from the limitations of the individual mind (ancestral patterns that cause suffering) and the belief that we are somehow separate from the rest of creation.
A journey of ascension as each soul ‘oscillates’ between life, where we forget our true nature and believe we are disconnected individuals, initially struggling to survive, but driven to learn, grow and be more…
and death, where we drop the limitation of Mind & Body and remember that we are eternal beings of infinite potential; that we manifest at this level of existence to embody our true nature and learn to create effectively without limitations. (Resistance and Suffering)
Ascension is a functional process that is easy to understand and apply in our lives each day if we follow our inner guidance, and do not get lost in the emotional story of who we think we are.
On the story level of our lives, we are guided by resonance and drawn to connect with those that hold the greatest potential for our evolution.
We are attracted by that potential and immediate start to focus all of our attention on one another.
As powerful creators, our attention is how we focus our life force to create reality.
We exchange energy in the form of thought, light, sound, smell, physical stimulation (touch, intimacy, sex), money, and other dense forms of energy.
These incoming forms of external energy stimulate our system and temporarily elevate our frequency to a state of love, validating us, making us feel safe, and empowered.
The effect of external energy, especially new energy, is intoxicating and can be highly addictive if we are not aware and energetically independent.
As we share energy, a bond starts to form that allows us to have an effect on one another. This leads us to believe that we are giving and receiving love, but in reality, we are unconsciously feeding each other’s needs so that we may feel the love that we are.
Most relationships are not based in love which, by its nature is unconditional. They are based in need where we often give to get, a contractual exchange of energy that triggers endless cycles of expectation and disappointment.
That bond intensifies when we share intimately and is most powerful when we procreate or draw up contracts to ensure and control the energy income.
These bonds hold us in a learning field (environment) that functionally trigger the needs, fears and control dramas that cause emotional turmoil and suffering in all relationships.
Looking at life from a process level, it then becomes clear that Humans suffer because we do not understand what love is.
In fact, I will make a bold statement and go as far as to say that our lack of awareness of our true nature and our misperception of what love is, lies at the root cause of all addiction, mental/emotional disorders and disease.
Once we develop an awareness of our true nature and purpose for being, this fundamental truth becomes self-evident, but for now, most humans are still in the early stages of the ascension process during which we awaken to our full potential as powerful creator beings.
This process guides all sentient beings on a journey through the denser layers of the physical realm where we often get lost learning to play with and process the abundant and highly addictive energy that is available for creation at this level of existence.
On this journey, we learn to manifest and slowly start to embody the awareness that we are eternal beings of infinite potential.
If we are to heal ourselves and end the cycles of suffering that we create at the story level of life, then it is essential that we start to understand what love is and how our need to experience it guides us through life back to an embodied awareness of our true nature.
